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打括号的字古今含义相同的是:宿、敌
与鞭数十驱之别院中的鞭用法相同的是：棋（都是名词做动词）

1. conflicts are easy to happen between wife and mother. Living together may intensify this cnnflict and affect the couples' sensation.
2. Living with the parents has a lot of inconveniences. This may be reflected markedly between father and wife.
3. Most of the parents become crankish and easy to nit-pick when they are old. The wife may not bear such blaming and nit-pick.
1. Living together will be jollification. The parents grow oldly after their children have their own family. They are afraid of loneliness. the parents can enjoy a happy life when living toghther
2. Who has an elder home also has get a treasure. Most of the young persons are busy now, their parents can take care of them if they live together.
3. working pressure is high in the mordern life. Young people don't have time to take care of their chidren. They are also afraid the baby-sitter can not take good care of them. So they will set their heart at rest if the children can be taken by their parents. The housework also can be done. They don't need to cook. Parent's cooking is suit for their appetite too.

问：我们的婆媳关系不好不坏,总是为孩子的教育发生分歧.他们以省钱为主,我以未来为主…… ------------------------------------------------------------------ (蔡礼旭老师)答：这个教育我们也不要操之过急.当婆婆公公跟我们方式不一样的时候,有一点很重要,先理解他们还是为孩子好,有这样的心,慢慢地共识就可以达到.假如只是在那里争我对他错,那这个问题会更大.有一次有一位太太,她的儿子出现一个情况：她的婆婆煮了东西要给孩子吃,孩子正在跟母亲讲话.结果孩子跟奶奶说：“你别吵.”讲了不恭敬的话,然后母亲马上让儿子给奶奶道歉,说：“你怎么可以跟奶奶讲这个话.”结果这个奶奶说：“天气这么热,道什么歉啊?赶快下来吃东西吧.”当下婆婆不理解媳妇是在教育孩子,结果就看到孩子僵在那里不道歉.这个母亲马上走到婆婆面前：“婆婆对不起,是我不对,我没有把孩子教育好,对你不恭敬.”当这个母亲道歉鞠躬下去,她孩子的眼泪就掉下来了,为自己感到惭愧.可是你看当下婆婆就可以理解到媳妇的用心,她这个躬鞠下去,婆媳之间就比较融洽了.

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45.家庭问题
46.甜蜜的事业
47.发扬光大
48.肩
49.苦学生
50.空前绝后
51.桥
52.喜之郎
53.水上歌声
54.奴
55.步步高
56.面面俱到
57.揍
58.田汉
59.毛
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61.重任
62.空欢喜
63.北雁南飞
64.轮流上映
65.辇

父进土,子进土,父子进土.婆失夫,媳失夫,婆媳失夫

婆媳棋局》中最后一“意思皆所不及也”可见婆媳两人棋艺高超.那么具体表现在她们下棋不在一个房间,全凭声音和记忆来下棋.可以隔墙下棋.婆媳二人分居两室,都是心中虚设一盘,下棋过程全凭记忆.

说明山外有山,人外有人.为人需虚心向学不可妄自尊大.

无论多远,亲人的安全牵动每一个家人