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Most of us long for relationships in which we are loved and accepted. Our hearts’ desire is to give and receive love in relationships that make us feel that even if others disagree with what we do or say, they still love us, accept us, and appreciate what we give to the world. While it would be wonderful to have these types of relationships with all people, we know that’s hard to do. However, we can have such relationships with some others, but only when we first have them with ourselves—and, strangely, this is often the hardest relationship of all.
Do you love yourself? You may think you do, but do you really? There’s only one way to find out— by taking a close look at what you think, say, and do. You may not like some of what you find, but if you are serious about really loving yourself, you can use this insight to do some positive inner work. Here’re three ways for gaining greater personal insight for deeper love:
Listen Closely to Your Thoughts
Your thoughts will determine your actions. One thing helping you to listen to your thoughts is keeping a journal. It is not necessary for you to write in it every day, but it helps to record various insights you gain as you go about your life. Instead of using a big notebook, you might use a small notepad that you can keep in your pocket for easy access to record your thoughts as they occur to you. Whichever method you choose, what’s most important is that you write your thoughts down. It will help you know what’s in your heart.
Be Honest with Yourself
To do this, you should pay attention to your actions. Actions speak louder than words, and they always tell the truth. If you say you love your job, but your actions say otherwise, which do you think is more reliable? On the other hand, if you say you’re not good at a certain job, but your actions say otherwise, that’s also important. What do you do with this insight? You can use it to make more positive choices in your life. By being honest with yourself, you will act according to truth instead of just what you tell yourself.
Take Quiet Time to Listen to Your Inner Voice
This is similar to the first point, but it takes a step further— beyond the natural mind to the heart that cannot be seen. You may want to use your quiet time to think deeply. However you use this time, the key is to shut out all of the noise around you by focusing deep within yourself. Breathing deeply during quiet time will also help you focus. I know it’s hard to find quiet time during a particularly busy day, but it’s so important— even if it’s just 10 minutes a day and you have to hide somewhere to get it. Quiet time can really make a difference in your life.
Despite what your mind may be telling you, you can have love with no limits. The key is to unconditionally love yourself first.
小题1:. By looking deep into what we think, say, and do, we can .

A．know whether we really love ourselves

B．appreciate what we give to the world

C．realize what type of relationship we long for

D．know whether we are loved and accepted by others

小题2:.An important way for gaining personal insight is to .

A．do some positive inner work

B．keep a journal wherever you go

C．look closely at what others say about us

D．pay attention to our thoughts

小题3:.The insight we gain from our actions can help us .

A．focus our attention on our jobs

B．make more positive choices in our life

C．act according to the truth

D．tell the differences between our words and our actions

小题4:.It can be learned from the passage that if we want to have love without limits, we must first of all .

A．be honest with ourselves anytime

B．give our love to others generously

C．love ourselves unconditionally

D．take quiet time and think deeply

Encouraging Positive Relationships
Choosing one’s friends is an important part of growing up. And although you can’t choose your children’s friends, you can have a positive influence on the relationships they make throughout their formative years. Use the following strategies to help your children to build positive relationships with their friends.
● Encourage diversity. 小题1: In addition to exposing your kids to more diversity, it will also help them learn more about themselves.
● Avoid criticism. Avoid criticizing friendships, but be honest with your kids when you’re concerned. 小题2: This may make them defensive and less receptive to what you have to say. Do be open and willing to listen to what they have to say, and talk about what makes you nervous.
● 小题3: If you feel that one of your child’s friends is having a negative influence on him, invite that friend to spend time with you and your child together so that you can have a positive influence on the relationship.
● Engage in community service. Engage your family in service and volunteering (or join a social group) through a local church, school, or other nonprofit organization. 小题4:
● 小题5: When talking about a friend who has a negative influence on your child, focus your comments on that friend’s behaviors, not on her personality. For example, instead of calling your child’s friend irresponsible for smoking, you could point out that the behavior has a negative effect on her health and recommend ways for your child to help her quit.

A．Offer advice.

B．Get involved.

C．Don’t condemn your child’s friends.

D．Help your kids find the group that they fit with.

E. These events can be great places to meet new friends.
F. It’s important to develop positive relationships with family members as well.
G. Challenge your children to get to know kids from many different backgrounds.

Researchers who study relationships have discovered that a big difference between those who make new friends easily, and those who don’t, is that socially successful people tend to make eye contact with their conversation partners much more frequently than those who are less successful socially. In fact, you may be able to become much more socially successful by making this one simple change to your behavior.
Most Americans prefer to have a lot of eye contact when they are talking with someone. When a person doesn’t make eye contact with them, they tend to think that the person is hiding something or the person doesn’t believe in himself/herself.
When you are having a conversation and you want to leave a friendly impression, be sure to keep looking at that person frequently while you are talking. If it really bothers you to look directly into another person’s eyes, you can gaze generally at, not above, the eyebrow area or the bridge of the nose; this is close enough to the eye region that you will appear to be looking at the person’s eyes. But neither the hair or the shoulders have the same effect. Don’t stare at other people too intensely, otherwise, you will look aggressive(攻击性).
Keep the majority of your focus on the other person. If you glance around the room too much, or look too frequently at other people, your conversation partner may guess that you are looking around for someone else you would rather talk with.
You can lighten your nervousness by smiling more often, nodding, and by gazing at the entire face as well as the eyes. In addition, you can frequently look away for very short periods.
When people get the sense that you are really paying attention to them, they will be much more likely to want to have conversations with you!
小题1:Which of the following is NOT the impression left by those who don’t make eye contact during the talk?

A．They are not telling the truth.	B．They are bored with the partner.
C．They are lacking in confidence	D．They are angry and ready to attack.

小题2: Besides the eyes of the partner, during the talk, you can look at his/her ___________.

A．hair

B．shoulders

C．the bridge of the nose

D．area above the eyebrows

小题3: From the passage, we can learn that ____________________.

A．looking away during conversation should always be avoided.

B．looking at a person frequently can give him/her a good impression.

C．many Americans feel like being stared at for a long time.

D．all successful people are good at making eye contact.

小题4:What would be the best title for the passage?

A．How to make yourself socially successful

B．How to use eye contact to make a good impression

C．How to make friends with the people around you

D．How to leave a good impression during a talk

We often focus on building relationships with others that we forget the essential first step: being friends of ourselves. _____小题1:___. How can we have good relationships with others if we don’t even have good relationships with ourselves?
The problem might be worse than we expect. Maybe we don’t like ourselves without realizing it. Here is a simple checklist: Is there anything you don’t like about yourself from these lists?
Your past: Maybe you have made mistakes in the past which you feel bad about. ___小题2:___. Even if that happened in distant past, your subconscious mind still has a reason not to like yourself.
Your background: You might wish that you were born in different family, or that you have different background. ____小题3:_____. They seem to get whatever they want effortlessly because of their background.
Your personal traits(特点): You might have some personality traits that you don’t like. For example, you may be an introvert(内向) and you don’t like it; you wish you were an extrovert.
Others might have better achievements than you, and no matter how hard you tried, it might seem impossible for you to match them. ______小题4:______. Is there anything that resonate(产生共鸣) with you? All these give reasons to you not to like yourself. That in turn makes it difficult for you to be a good friend to yourself.
______小题5:______. Here are some tips:
Forgive yourself
Accept things you can’t change
Focus on your strengths
Write your success stories
Stop comparing yourself with others
Always be true to yourself

A．That is the crucial(关键) first step if we are to have good relationships with others

B．You might then think that it’s because you are not smart enough or don’t have enough talents

C．You can do something to improve the relationships with others

D．Fortunately, there are always things you can do to fix the situation

E. You might be disappointed with yourself on why you make such mistakes
F. Sometimes you might not believe yourself
G. Maybe you could not accept the fact that you are not as lucky as others